Author: Uff

thebibliosphere:

Despair is acceptable. Apathy is not.

Fear is acceptable. Apathy is not.

Exhaustion is acceptable. Apathy is not.

Actively telling people that their hope is worthless and we’re all fucked so why even bother, is actively harmful and further enables those who are trying to do us harm. Why are you empowering those people? Why are you doing their job for them?

Look, I get it. I’m one more symbolic goosestep away from having a complete mental breakdown. I honestly just want to lay down and cry and let the darkness take me at this point. But I can’t. I fucking can’t because I have a duty and a responsibility as a human being to burn as hard and bright as I possibly can in the hopes that it does matter and that it will matter and that sometime soon, things will get better. If not for me, then for the generations to come.

No one says these things thinking it will be easy. It is not easy. Do not mistake my hope for naivety. I know it will be hard, I know it will hurt. But I have weighed the cost of apathy and it is a price too high to pay. 

Self care, get professional help, learn to use your rage and fear as a source of power instead of a cause of stagnation. And fucking get your head in the game because it’s going to take all of us to recover from this.

The sun will still keep rising long after we’re gone as a species. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t rise to meet it.

The sun will still keep rising long after we’re gone as a species. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t rise to meet it.

alexkablob:

lycanthropic-tongue-twisters:

gahdamnpunk:

Some journalists really need to be fired

“McKellen applauded victims for coming forward about sexual harassment saying “it’s sometimes very difficult for victims to do that.” He added, “‘I hope we’re going through a period that will help to eradicate it altogether.””

“‘I assume *nothing but good* will come out of these revelations, even though some people get wrongly accused — there’s that side of it as well,” he said.”

“McKellen also addressed the allegations surrounding Kevin Spacey […] saying that the way he chose to come out was “reprehensible because it linked alleged underage sex with a declaration of sexuality.””

Source: deadline.com

naamahdarling:

theroguefeminist:

thatscottishplay:

memefix:

thatscottishplay:

memefix:

thatscottishplay:

memefix:

someoneintheshadow456:

the-mighty-birdy:

absorbednebula:

friendly-neighborhood-patriarch:

knightoflodis:

hexingkyriachy:

sugarbooty:

daughterofscotland:

See the source for the whole comic, it’s brilliant.

I’m sorry, there’s a WORD FOR THIS?!?!?! , mental load, holy shit

Not just heterosexual men, but men in relationships with not-men, but yeah

I can think of a couple things to fix this. First. Teach your children how to properly plan for and do household chores (and this includes the men teaching them this stuff as well). Second. Communicate. Actually. You should be communicating about everything and talking everything out. If you don’t like how the household chores are handled, communicate that. If you want you SO to be part of organizing this stuff so you don’t have to do it alone, let them know, and then sit down with them to hash everything out. And I know some may hate this one. But if your SO was not taught how to properly do things, either teach them, or inform them that you want them to learn in some way. Get them involved. Get them to start planning things out on their own.

I feel like when I see these posts I am always on the outside looking in because my family dynamics were always so different. First. The men in my family are the ones that cook. And they enjoy it. Second. My dad does a lot of the cleaning and grocery shopping, though my mom and dad do argue about how certain chores (like laundry and bills) should be done, but that happens sometimes. Third. I know other parts of my extended family have more equal approaches to all of this stuff. These things are shared between the married couples of my family. I don’t see these lazy male stereotypes in any of my family role models. So these posts will always be a tad strange to me.

Oh boy I sure do love pissy feminist women telling men what they do and do not think or bear.

Why not also make a family board in the kitchen. On it list chores of the house, save a section for what the house needs for if anyone leaves to go to the store they can also get that and save whoever time when they go shopping for the house.

Honestly yeah, the solution to 90% of these problems is I dunno maybe FUCKING TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT THIS SHIT???? I’m sure if you express your frustrations to him he’ll be more than understanding.

Why is passive aggressiveness so common in women? No seriously. Idk if that’s the correct word but passive aggressive is what’s coming to mind.

Like instead of telling your husband or boyfriend that he made a mistake and talking it out, they make snide “you know what you did” comments, or give him the silent treatment, or snub him like he’s some kind of idiot, or go behind his back and bitch. It’s like they expect him to be a mind reader! 

My mom does this to me sometimes, I’ve had female friends from school treat me like this, and they all expect me to think it’s normal and I’m sitting here scratching my head, wondering if I missed this lesson in “Basic Women Behaviour” because it’s not in my nature to do any of this. 

Like can we start using “toxic femininity” the same way we use “toxic masculinity”? Because passive aggressiveness is a mostly female trait that is VERY TOXIC. 

Here is what we did, when we both had equal time at home, I made a list, being a woman, on all household tasks that need to be done, and how long they take on average, and then we picked one each after another till the list was empty as our responsibility, I have him his list written out clean so he could hang it by his desk and always see what he was responsible for. And that was it, he knew what he had to do, and what tasks he did not have to think about because they were mine, he did his and I did mine, fucking done, its not that hard if you are able to communicate on a third graders level.

Now that he works full time and I do not I have taken back all of the household responsibilities, because he works longer than me and he makes the money, we are a team, each of us provides for the other, we do what we can do make life a bit better together, women need to take responsibility for their own happiness.

are y’all stupid? it’s not about comminication so much as why men don’t feel the need to do household chores in the first place.

Yeah and because their mama’s fucked up we now all have to be miserable and not do anything productive ever to fix this easily fixable problem.

its the moms fault that men arent taught to do household chores? again, you stupid?

Who thought these useless men? Who raised them? It was not their fathers, look it up men with fathers do better on every posdible aspect of life. I asked mine why he was like he was, fuck off. I am not about that bitching life I am here to fix things. Bye

I’m talking about being taught from society, but w.e bye

Okay but is no one seeing the irony that practically all these suggestions put more mental load on women to make chore charts, teach men what to do, and still do a bulk of the planning and nagging and managing of the man? It’s almost like they completely missed the point of the post. Putting the entire burden on women to teach men to be functioning members of a household misses the point that men reading this should be thinking about how they can make their households more egalitarian.

Also miss me with the INCREDIBLE misogyny of labeling all women passive aggressive and blaming women for navigating the pressures of being considered a bitch if they assert themselves with men, as well as situating the ENTIRE blame for society’s gender roles with mothers. It’s been a long time since I’ve seen such blatant misogyny from tumblr users on my dash. LMAO I love the idea of calling misogynist stereotypes “toxic femininity.” Just gross.

What the fuck is up with the people in this thread? Yikes.

Jesus.

Ack.

Source: english.emmaclit.com

existinmyhead:

tchaikovsgay:

filthywhitebitch:

bwellesley:

blackpanthersdick:

fiightingdreamers:

this thread is the absolute holy grail of repeated self owns

This thread is making me wet

“I voted for a guy who wants to take rights away from people I love and got backlash for it :(”

“I voted for a Vice President who caused an AIDS outbreak as governor of Indiana while also supporting conversion therapy and other anti-LGBT legislation and now my gay son won’t talk to me :-(”

Source: fiightingdreamers

clover1982:

clover1982:

notyourexrotic:

Naturalized US citizens are reporting that the DHS website is listing them as “not a citizen”.

From Funmilayo Celestina Ekundayo:

So i just got this message when i attempted to update my voter registration.

This is a lie. I became a naturalized citizen in 2005. Drove all the way to Memphis Tennessee for the ceremony.

I have voted in 2 elections; i have an American passport I’ve traveled with, and i have gone to the Department of safety and homeland security to update all information, last time i did was 2 years ago when i needed a copy of my social security card.

So, a warning to all naturalized citizens inTennessee , check your status now!!

https://ovr.govote.tn.gov/Registration

Something is happening.
*update*
I have confirmed others that are having this issue. Folks, this is Not a drill!!
Check your statuses.
*update 2*
Still trying to find answers. After calling the Department of homeland security and safety, i was told by the representative that he didn’t know what was happening and would like to refer me to an “immigration officer”. The wait time is 57 minutes. The office closed in 17 minutes.
I will try again on Monday.
Until then, i am taking my passport with me Everywhere!! EVERYWHERE!!!

This is not a drill.

https://www.newyorker.com/news/our-columnists/in-america-naturalized-citizens-no-longer-have-an-assumption-of-permanence

Source: notyourexrotic

theflats:

“When I was doing my residency in New York, a patient came in 18 weeks pregnant and very, very sick. The only way to save her was to terminate the pregnancy. We were in a Catholic hospital … I vividly recall my director of obstetrics and the chairman arguing with the nuns. They said, “Well, the baby’s only 18 weeks, it’s going to die.” They felt very strongly that we could not do anything, but they would be okay with us transferring her to get care elsewhere. The director rode with the patient in the ambulance because he was afraid that she would have seizures. She was in her early 20s, and she already had a kid. That really got to me. How could we let this mom die and leave her child behind when we have the means to take care of her? I said to myself: “I never want my hands tied behind my back like that again.” I used to travel; these days I’m mostly in Georgia and I’m a backup physician in Alabama. In Alabama, my patients tend to be poor and young. The youngest was barely 12. She went to play with a classmate, and there were older boys over … When her guardians brought her in, I was reluctant to take care of her in an outpatient setting because we couldn’t sedate her. I went to the local hospital and said, “She’s just a baby. She’s suffered enough. Please, can we put her to sleep.” Everybody was onboard. Things have changed so much I don’t know if I would be able to get away with that now. The most frustrating thing for me, especially in the Southeast, is seeing so many women who are not empowered to take care of themselves. Especially women of color. You hear things like “I was told I’m too young for an IUD” when we know that’s not true. They need to know what their options are. I’m Haitian-American, and the part of me that is extremely cynical wants to say, Well, it’s because these are black women. But I really think it’s a matter of poverty. It just so happens that the face of poverty may be black. A few weeks ago, a woman came in for a medical abortion. As she was about to take the pill, she asked, “Do you think God hates me?” And I said, “No, he doesn’t hate you.” She said to me: “I tried so hard not to get pregnant. I told my boyfriend to use a condom, but he refused and forced himself on me.” If you overturn Roe v. Wade, what’s going to happen is we’ll go back to the way it was before. Every state for themselves. And best believe that the conservative states are going to try to outdo each other. Poor women will suffer. Poor women will die. There’s a generation of abortion providers who are more willing to be vocal about the impact of these different legislative measures. I tell my learners, “I don’t expect you to provide abortion care, but I want you to support your co-worker if they say, ‘Hey, we need a piece of legislation.’ I want you to stand behind us. But most importantly, I want you to be able to counsel and educate your patient in a way that respects her decision.” If I can train 500 providers who are compassionate and willing to respect and help their patients, I’ve done my job.”

— Anonymous, OB/GYN and a former fellow with Physicians for Reproductive Health, What Abortion in America Looks Like Right Now (via quigonejinn)

patrexes:

“you can’t control who’s going to read your gross fic!!”

yes i can. it’s called tagging appropriately. the only people who are gonna read my gross e-rated dead dove dubious consent mind control vore porn are

1) adults who want to read that content, and

2) people who looked at those tags, looked at the mature content warning, and then said “well that looks like absolutely nothing i want to be a part of” and then clicked it anyway to get angry about

date-a-jew-suggestions:

prismatic-bell:

date-a-jew-suggestions:

If you would report an undocumented immigrant to ICE you would have reported me to the Nazis and I don’t fucking trust you

A note:

I live in a state where you “have to” report anyone you suspect of being undocumented (that wonderful hellhole of Arizona). Now in practice this law has fallen far short, thank goodness. But if you live in such a place and they start enforcing it, here is how you get around it:

Assume everyone who doesn’t speak English is visiting.

Never ask about their job, because if they tell you they work here then you know they’re not visiting. You see them a lot for several weeks or months? Hm. Someone in the family must be ill. That’s terribly tough. They always dress in old, ratty laborers’ clothes? I feel you, my dude, I can’t afford new clothes either, and my dad has the fashion sense of an aardvark, so sometimes it’s not even about “affording” them. They say they’ve been here for years? You must have misunderstood. Spanish isn’t your first language, after all. First and last name? It never came up, or you don’t recall–you meet a lot of people.

And then, if you’re asked: no, you haven’t seen anyone residing illegally in the United States. Just people visiting.

Very good very important addition